We all, whether we communicate it openly or not, have expectations around getting some-where.
Knowing we would like to improve in some-way, and feeling frustrated that we are not‘there’ yet.
Goals and plans are wonderful things. They give us direction and purpose in our everyday lives.
But are we quietly beating ourselves up for not getting to the destination fast enough? And besides, do we even really know where ‘there’ is?
Because the only real constant in life is change.
This week I have been looking at ‘there' in both a professional and a more heart-focused personal way. But the emotion I felt for each was very similar.
“There is so far to go... there is so much to know, how will I ever know all of this instinctively? When will I stop feeling so uneasy about it?.”
Of the many trends likely to impact our lives and our businesses that were discussed, whether it was around AI, water shortages or fully non-human companies... One thing was constant, change will come. Whether we like it or not. It may or may not be exactly what we talked about in this conference, but somethings will shift and they will impact us all in some way.
My biggest take-out was that as we travel on our journey to ‘there’, we must be optimistic, be open to the possibilities change brings us and our work, rather than focus on the potential fear it may ensue.
More personally, I am working on an internal ‘there’, on rediscovering my voice and throwing off the shackles of my protective ‘safe’ armour that has been built up from past stumbles and putting myself back out into the world.
Like the macro trends discussed in the conference, it feels different, it feels uncomfortable and even sitting down to create these words would have been all too easy to avoid.
To thrive personally, just like embracing new technology we will have to move through discomfort. Resisting that simply brings frustration and eventually unhappiness.
We all want to grow, to embrace new possibilities, to discover new levels of potential. All to often though, when discomfort hits, we give up. We think we are not good enough. We feel pain. That’s when we need distraction, to numb out, to deny that this was something we ever wanted to do. To create a story to tell others... but mostly it’s a story to tell ourselves.
Because we didn’t get ‘there’.
But really, where is ‘there'? And where were we last week? Did we move? Did we learn something new, did we try to apply any growth to our day-to-day lives?
I’m guessing everyone reading this can probably think of at least one way in which they did. Whether that was looking at a new app, or trying out a new recipe, experimenting with a new form of marketing, or simply just choosing to pause from the chaos of your daily life and let yourself breathe for two minutes when you wouldn’t normally have ‘time’, because you are trying to get ‘there’.
Allowing ourselves to be ‘here’ is the most important part of getting ‘there’. Recognising what we have achieved, seeing that we have taken another positive step from ‘back-there’ Not beating ourselves up for how far we have to go, but celebrating the perhaps simple steps we have taken forward, it’s those steps are the key to us staying in control of our dream to go ‘there’.
Yes we must be optimistic, be open to shifting, changing, adapting, considering and trying out the new, but to be successful we must remember that doing this is hard work for all of us. My advice is to give yourself a break from getting ‘there’ and celebrate being ‘here’ a little more often because before you know it, you’ll be somewhere you never even imagined.